SUPPORT – is it okay to be carried?

In my time in Bali 2016/2017 I reflected on the past year, my adventures and in which way I could only reach my goals through receiving of help and support from others.

´Three questions: Who am I? Where am I going to? And with whom´ This is the book title of one of Jorge Bucay´s masterpieces. Definitely worth reading if you have the time. This book inspired me to look into the questions of who I am and how to choose where to go to. Considering also in which way the connection and relationship with other people affect me in my undertaking.

Another book ´Karmic mangement´ by Geshe Michael Roach has influnced this article. The idea that I need to give to the world what I want to see and receive. Do I want to be supported – so, how can I be support to others? I did spend time to experience the effects of that. If you are curious you should try it, too.

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Giving the word support its full meaning:

Deriving from the latin word: sub “up from under” and portare “to carry”. Carrying or stabilizing someone or even being the one, who is stabilized by another person.

Why is it, that we sometimes feel, we need to do it all by ourselves?

Is there fear of owing someone something? Of being a burden or being dependant?

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Travelling has given me the faith and deep knowing that yes, it is very okay to ask for help – to receive it even from strangers in moments that you can´t give anything back to them.

But you can give it to someone else. Passing the help on to another human being, so he or she learns to trust the support of a stranger. Knowing that it is safe to be stabilized and even carried for a while.

Again, back to my travelling and backbacking example: Simply being open and receptive to the encounters I make, open to the synchronicity and guidance that will be provided for me. Having faith and endurance to wait for things to fall into place. Walking through life with open eyes in order to perceive the help provided and sometimes even opening the mouth to ask for help. Trusting the offers made and the gut feelings.

I feel, it is no blind trust that I have developed over the years of travelling all around the world. It is that kind of trust, that is more of a knowing from deep within. Knowing that I am safe and exactly where I am meant to be. I find being in the present moment is ultimately the safest way to go out into the world.

Most of the times it is a waste of energy and time to work out the most perfect plan and then, guess what, life happens and you have to struggle adjusting your plan.

You will have to react instead of acting with conscious awareness. And most likely, you will suffer, because there will be resistance to let go of your initial plan, your idea, your vision of how you wanted things to be.

Then life is harder than it has to be and yet, it happens over and over again that we struggle and fight the reality of that particular moment– at least, I did at times this year. It is necessary to have gone through times of hardship and difficulties to truly know, how it feels like to live with ease, to be happy and content. If there wasn’t the actual experience of it.

I think it is important to be grateful for those hard times and bitter lessons, too. Sometimes those times make us open up to others. Finally allowing to receive the support and community that we might have been craving.

No, I don´t think we have to do it all by ourselves. And we don´t have to make others believe, they have to do it all by themselves.

With that I don´t mean, that we have to support others constantly or do everything for everyone else without any boundaries. Nor do I talk about offering help in order to pollish our ego and feel stronger or more important than the other person.

I feel – offer help, if it comes from your heart and you don´t want anything back for it.

Otherwise communicate your expectations beforehand to prevent disappointment or arguments. Offer help, if you have the ressources, time, energy and motivation to do it.

Let it be a selfless service. Paying into an invisable bank account that keeps this world a good place to live in.

I know, I would not stand here, where I am, without the infinite stream of synchronicities, support and encouraging words, mindfully listening ears of friends, family and sometimes even strangers.

Allowing the reflection that others have of me, to widen my perspective of who I am, what I can do. Without confusing their truth with the ultimate truth.

The way I ´pay back´ for all the support I was gifted with, is gratitude. And my attitude of supporting others whenever it is possible for me.

Finishing each day with a feeling of gratitude and happiness: Grateful for what I have and have received. Grateful for being able to support others, having had a good impact on the life of another human being.

Which thoughts do you allow to be inside your head, before you sleep or when you wake up?

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